Welcome and thanks for visiting our brand new site! I’ve created this site to share stories, resources and supports for families caring for children who have FASD, diagnosed or suspected.
FASD is hard. It’s hard on kids and it’s hard on families. I’m raising my two little boys,(Liam is 4 and Aiden is 3) both of whom who have FASD, on my own. That’s exhausting. But it’s also silly, fascinating, fun, messy and all of the other good stuff that comes with having children.
The boys birth mother became pregnant at 15 and again at 16, delivering these two fellows within 12 months of each other. She also drank throughout both pregnancies, something that our family suspected but couldn’t confirm until drug testing of my youngest at birth.
The boys received their diagnosis when they were 3 and 2 which is rare. Most kids get lost in the system, slip through the cracks, or are completely misdiagnosed when in fact, prenatal alcohol exposure is the issue. Despite my 18 years in child welfare, extensive training in child protection and in working with infants and foster parents, I had to fight the entire child welfare organization to get a diagnosis. That made me pretty unpopular with the agencies involved with our family. #sorrynotsorry
Foster parents aren’t supposed to rock the boat yet we’re entrusted with the daily care, love and protection of little people. Often when we voice our concerns about the children in our care, we are ignored or concerns are brushed aside. We’re the experts of the children we care for. We’re with them every single day. We wipe their tears, rock them to sleep, walk the floors with infants, and reassure scared bigger kids through the night. We feed, love, and care for them 24/7. We know our kids.
The purpose of this website and in sharing this story is to ensure that all families caring for little ones with suspected or diagnosed FASD get the supports, services, and resources they need to continue to do their job. Because parenting, and in particular, foster parenting, is the hardest job on earth. Let’s have each other’s backs.